Have any of you who are dealing with abuse that happened 20, 30, 40 years ago ever sued your abusers or pressed charges against them? MT, my therapist, keeps talking about there must be some way to go after my abusers in court. I’m not sure I’d want to do that….I’m not sure I’d want to be responsible for sending frail old people to jail. It would be a big deal and I don’t want to be known as the woman this horrible stuff happened to. I just want to be known as the strong, caring, wise woman people often think I am. I’m not always that, but more often than not, that’s what people see. What people most often think about me is about me. I don’t want anybody to attribute what somebody else did to how I behave. Also, I’m pretty sure I am way past the statute of limitations in my state. And I don’t want any more of my life than necessary to be about that abuse. I don’t want to have strangers know intimate details. I’m not trying to protect the abusers, I’m trying to protect the child I was and the adult I am. Am I being too scared or too merciful or am I making sense?